After reading the post, 'Women are Crazy', I couldn't help but write this. As a woman I should be Appalled (see capital A), furious about what was written. But all I could was 
Why ? Because
a) It was written by a man, and that is just his side of the story. He is definitely entitled to have an opinion isn't.
b) It was not based on any research study or anything. There was no experiments conducted on a set of women to really establish those facts. Most of them are from personal experiences and hear say stories
c) Most of it is 'true'. No doubt about that. What points exactly.... well that depends on the individual.
and finally
d) it was 'FUN' to read.
I have had quite a few fights with my friends when they have these kind of comments on women. For e.g. the one discussion we have had every now and then is 'women are the worst drivers'. And I keep arguing it. Every.Single.Time. Based on a small set of women they have seen, they form a correlation between women and driving. Well, since there is no theory established on that based on the various experimental studies (yea yea I have been reading about these stuff recently..) its just their opinion. But again, I would still argue with them the next time they state this. Because mostly its fun to argue and secondly, if I don't they will always assume that what they said is correct, which is not the case here.
There was this one incident, where one guy who had visited our U.S office from another country had to extend his stay for another month. He (not an Indian) was telling me how his girlfriend made a big drama when he told her about his extension and finally she agreed to it after so much reluctance and when he promised to get her something from U.S. And said to me.. 'oh women and their drama...!!!'. He had no idea that he told it to the last person whom he shouldn't have done that. I asked him if his girl friend had agreed to his extension without saying anything or protesting, would he have felt good about it? He wasn't sure (well because something like that never happens right?). So then I asked him if he would think that since she was OK with his extension, will he feel, even may be for a few seconds, that she might be OK with their separation and that she is not bothered about him or doesn't love him enough to want to be near him. Now, he started thinking.. and said that may be he would have felt a little bad about it..(and then drown a beer and things are alright for him.. Men!!!) Then I told him that the way women behave that way is to make you feel that you are wanted and that you are loved (in turn boost their ego exponentially, even though they crib about it a lot). They may be perfectly fine with the separation and they might have their own work to do, but that little drama added some spice to his life and in turn is a way to remind him that he is cherished and missed in her life. If she was angry that he should be back at any cost and blah blah blah ,...then yes, he should look for someone else. But all she did was whine a little and give in to him. Without that drama, life would be boring.. no? Now, he got a little confused and was wondering if there is more to a simple whining ;). I know I was playing some mind games there but well as long as I get my point across !!! (hey, I am a woman after all)
No doubt, women have so many layers of mystery. You don't know why they whine for things that seem very silly or simple. Why they ask you questions that might be very irrelevant to you for a situation. Why they try to find different meanings for a single simple sentence that you deliver. Why there seems to be no simple answers to anything you ask. Why they use tears as a weapon, when all else fails. Too many why's. But guess what, without those, if they give it you straight, then may be men will treat them like one of them. They lose the mystery element that is part of being a woman. The balance is lost. It might work well with friends. But in relationships, it would get boring after some time wouldn't it? Being too predictable is not good. This doesn't mean men don't have their faults. Ask any woman, she would say that all men prefer sports to wives/girl friends, after marriages they prefer to go on tours with their friends rather than family (which is totally a 180 of what they would want before marriage), they work late hours and say that they are doing it for the family (well family needs you in person too you know) etc etc etc..
Well, all in all, I like that we women are so varied in nature, that its not easy to categorize us in groups. We at times tend to keep men at their toes just for the heck of it, or even unknowingly, because it is in our nature. We are emotional, but that is where we derive our strength. If you could guess us so easily then we would be doomed. We are the way we are to help nature maintain the balance ;)
We are crazy but crazy is fun too... isnt?
Why ? Because
a) It was written by a man, and that is just his side of the story. He is definitely entitled to have an opinion isn't.
b) It was not based on any research study or anything. There was no experiments conducted on a set of women to really establish those facts. Most of them are from personal experiences and hear say stories
c) Most of it is 'true'. No doubt about that. What points exactly.... well that depends on the individual.
and finally
d) it was 'FUN' to read.
I have had quite a few fights with my friends when they have these kind of comments on women. For e.g. the one discussion we have had every now and then is 'women are the worst drivers'. And I keep arguing it. Every.Single.Time. Based on a small set of women they have seen, they form a correlation between women and driving. Well, since there is no theory established on that based on the various experimental studies (yea yea I have been reading about these stuff recently..) its just their opinion. But again, I would still argue with them the next time they state this. Because mostly its fun to argue and secondly, if I don't they will always assume that what they said is correct, which is not the case here.
There was this one incident, where one guy who had visited our U.S office from another country had to extend his stay for another month. He (not an Indian) was telling me how his girlfriend made a big drama when he told her about his extension and finally she agreed to it after so much reluctance and when he promised to get her something from U.S. And said to me.. 'oh women and their drama...!!!'. He had no idea that he told it to the last person whom he shouldn't have done that. I asked him if his girl friend had agreed to his extension without saying anything or protesting, would he have felt good about it? He wasn't sure (well because something like that never happens right?). So then I asked him if he would think that since she was OK with his extension, will he feel, even may be for a few seconds, that she might be OK with their separation and that she is not bothered about him or doesn't love him enough to want to be near him. Now, he started thinking.. and said that may be he would have felt a little bad about it..(and then drown a beer and things are alright for him.. Men!!!) Then I told him that the way women behave that way is to make you feel that you are wanted and that you are loved (in turn boost their ego exponentially, even though they crib about it a lot). They may be perfectly fine with the separation and they might have their own work to do, but that little drama added some spice to his life and in turn is a way to remind him that he is cherished and missed in her life. If she was angry that he should be back at any cost and blah blah blah ,...then yes, he should look for someone else. But all she did was whine a little and give in to him. Without that drama, life would be boring.. no? Now, he got a little confused and was wondering if there is more to a simple whining ;). I know I was playing some mind games there but well as long as I get my point across !!! (hey, I am a woman after all)
No doubt, women have so many layers of mystery. You don't know why they whine for things that seem very silly or simple. Why they ask you questions that might be very irrelevant to you for a situation. Why they try to find different meanings for a single simple sentence that you deliver. Why there seems to be no simple answers to anything you ask. Why they use tears as a weapon, when all else fails. Too many why's. But guess what, without those, if they give it you straight, then may be men will treat them like one of them. They lose the mystery element that is part of being a woman. The balance is lost. It might work well with friends. But in relationships, it would get boring after some time wouldn't it? Being too predictable is not good. This doesn't mean men don't have their faults. Ask any woman, she would say that all men prefer sports to wives/girl friends, after marriages they prefer to go on tours with their friends rather than family (which is totally a 180 of what they would want before marriage), they work late hours and say that they are doing it for the family (well family needs you in person too you know) etc etc etc..
Well, all in all, I like that we women are so varied in nature, that its not easy to categorize us in groups. We at times tend to keep men at their toes just for the heck of it, or even unknowingly, because it is in our nature. We are emotional, but that is where we derive our strength. If you could guess us so easily then we would be doomed. We are the way we are to help nature maintain the balance ;)
We are crazy but crazy is fun too... isnt?
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