Today ironically, I happen to hear a sentence in the same context and the same words twice and from two different people, who are in two different locations and having two different problems. The sentence was "At times life is so demanding and I am not able to figure out why these things are happening !!!". I guess no one would have the answer to this question. At times even I used to think why somethings are happening the way it is currently happening now, and why it cant have been better for me. But I found that it made me more angry and more depressed and hence less productive. It would be beneficial for me to accept the fact that I have to cross this and when I have least control on certain things in life better accept it as it comes, face it, struggle against it as much as possible and at times go by its stride.
Long time ago I read this somewhere, "anything that makes you weak, ignore as poison". I wonder how our brain can register such small sentences, whereas forget important things/events. And one more sentence, which has been with me for long is "expect the best, but prepare for the worst".
But most of the times, telling is much more easier than following it. Well in such situations, wise decision is to let our hair down and sit and crib for a while. It really helps. Better out than in I say ;)
Monday, August 25, 2008
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Thali
Recently I came across this post 'where's my thali?'. I found it very nice and funny. May be because I do that at times(!!!)? Well, recently I have seen so many young (mostly working) women not wearing their Thali's, because (a) it is very heavy, (b) one need not demonstrate the fact that one is married by wearing that (c) just don't believe in it and many other reasons suiting their own needs and circumstances. When I read the part in the post where in the lady wears it when her husband is on a tour to Ceylon, a troubled place, it made me remember of my friend who was in a same situation and it really made me laugh.
Obviously, a husband's life is not tied in a Thali isn't. One should really believe the cause behind such rituals (or whatever you call this) and then follow it. Thali or for that matter anything like that (because Thali is only for South Indians) is meant to be a identification marker for a woman. There might be lot of people who might feel offended by such acts or even mention of acts, but that is the truth. I remember very well, that I was in a bit of a shock when I saw the scene in Alaipayuthey wherein Shalini searches for her Thali and Madhavan hides it somewhere and chides her for losing such a thing. Because till that time, I was really believing that a Thali is very important for the long living of one's husband. It took me some years to really realize the real meaning of it.
We also see that people don't wear a bindi or Thali when they go abroad, because they become the odd man out there and for the fear of being stolen. My mom used to chide me for wearing a black bindi because it is supposed to be inauspicious. I totally believe that certain colors have certain effects on one's mental and physical health but a small bindi wouldn't dampen my mental spirit or my physical health. Wouldn't it?
No doubt it is a sacred thing and a lot of prayers and blessings of so many people go in making it and the sacred ceremony that happens when it is being tied.. well all that is true. But let us be realistic, it is just another ornament for a woman. One old woman did boast to me about her 64gm Thali and how it was made by their parents at their times.
I know of a woman who has a kid of 8 yrs who doesn't wear Thali or for that matter any ornament. I asked her why and she just said that she follows her mother in law. Well that is saying something. I also know of a person whose husband doesn't bother that his wife is not wearing her Thali at all. How many of them do that nowadays?
Well all said and done, let us not be too unrealistic as to ignore the traditional values that go behind it and not be too realistic about not wearing it at all unless and otherwise you have a genuine reason. At the end of the day, it is each one's choice that should be respected.
Obviously, a husband's life is not tied in a Thali isn't. One should really believe the cause behind such rituals (or whatever you call this) and then follow it. Thali or for that matter anything like that (because Thali is only for South Indians) is meant to be a identification marker for a woman. There might be lot of people who might feel offended by such acts or even mention of acts, but that is the truth. I remember very well, that I was in a bit of a shock when I saw the scene in Alaipayuthey wherein Shalini searches for her Thali and Madhavan hides it somewhere and chides her for losing such a thing. Because till that time, I was really believing that a Thali is very important for the long living of one's husband. It took me some years to really realize the real meaning of it.
We also see that people don't wear a bindi or Thali when they go abroad, because they become the odd man out there and for the fear of being stolen. My mom used to chide me for wearing a black bindi because it is supposed to be inauspicious. I totally believe that certain colors have certain effects on one's mental and physical health but a small bindi wouldn't dampen my mental spirit or my physical health. Wouldn't it?
No doubt it is a sacred thing and a lot of prayers and blessings of so many people go in making it and the sacred ceremony that happens when it is being tied.. well all that is true. But let us be realistic, it is just another ornament for a woman. One old woman did boast to me about her 64gm Thali and how it was made by their parents at their times.
I know of a woman who has a kid of 8 yrs who doesn't wear Thali or for that matter any ornament. I asked her why and she just said that she follows her mother in law. Well that is saying something. I also know of a person whose husband doesn't bother that his wife is not wearing her Thali at all. How many of them do that nowadays?
Well all said and done, let us not be too unrealistic as to ignore the traditional values that go behind it and not be too realistic about not wearing it at all unless and otherwise you have a genuine reason. At the end of the day, it is each one's choice that should be respected.
Friday, August 15, 2008
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Learning
Learning is such a nice experience. I had recently joined Guitar classes and have been going for almost a month now. Today I graduated from learning fingering to Chords :) Going to the next level was really satisfying.
Earlier when I had joined the classes, half of my co-students were almost 1/5th my age. And the rest were 2/3rd my age. So there was a slight hesitation in the beginning on how the class would be and how I would be able to cope up, with so much young (!!!) talent around me. And the strength of the class was much less (may be 20 or so spread across 4 hrs, each student gets one hour of class every week). But after one month, I see that the strength has increased considerably and the I find lot of people of my age joining the class and it feels good that you are one among them.
I remember how I was learning just the 'asdfgf' part during my typing classes, almost 15 yrs ago, for one whole month. Patience and perseverance are two main requirements for learning. You know what I went on to pass my higher level typing with good grade.
One more advantage of continuous learning is that it makes you feel younger always. You always feel that you have so much to do, you forget your age ;)
So you want to feel younger, feel relaxed, relieve your stress or just pass your time, learning something and if it is something which you always wanted to do and which might give you more pleasure, then definitely go for it. It really helps.
Get over the idea that only children should spend their time in study. Be a student so long as you still have something to learn, and this will mean all your life. ~Henry L. Doherty
Earlier when I had joined the classes, half of my co-students were almost 1/5th my age. And the rest were 2/3rd my age. So there was a slight hesitation in the beginning on how the class would be and how I would be able to cope up, with so much young (!!!) talent around me. And the strength of the class was much less (may be 20 or so spread across 4 hrs, each student gets one hour of class every week). But after one month, I see that the strength has increased considerably and the I find lot of people of my age joining the class and it feels good that you are one among them.
I remember how I was learning just the 'asdfgf' part during my typing classes, almost 15 yrs ago, for one whole month. Patience and perseverance are two main requirements for learning. You know what I went on to pass my higher level typing with good grade.
One more advantage of continuous learning is that it makes you feel younger always. You always feel that you have so much to do, you forget your age ;)
So you want to feel younger, feel relaxed, relieve your stress or just pass your time, learning something and if it is something which you always wanted to do and which might give you more pleasure, then definitely go for it. It really helps.
Get over the idea that only children should spend their time in study. Be a student so long as you still have something to learn, and this will mean all your life. ~Henry L. Doherty
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