Reason,Season,Lifetime

I read somewhere that the relationships that the people around us are categorized into three. a) Reason b) Season c) Lifetime. I don't remember who said this or when I read this, it just sort of stayed with me that is all (like so many other things :) )
May be just because I believe this or may be it is really true, I have always felt that the people I meet or have around me, fall into atleast one of the three.

Let me try to convince you with some examples.

My family is always there for me for my lifetime. They have seen all my phases (good, bad, worse etc), but they have been always there for me, even though I have sometimes ignored them (and I learnt my lesson for that in a bitter way). I can always believe that they are there for me no matter what, even though they never say it by word anytime.

My friends: they are there for a reason and for a season. I have had friends who were there for a season. I have enjoyed a lot with them and have lost touch. They were there for me in one of the phases of my life. May be I will come in touch with them sometime later, but yeah the season I had with them is over and it can never come back. I cherish them very much and nothing can replace it.

My family, friends and few acquaintances were and still are there for a reason. These are the people who are close to me , next to my family members. These people may not be there for a season or lifetime, but they are there in my life for a reason, to make me more stronger, more practical, more grounded, more positive. To be more specific, I had this particular acquaintance in a hostel while I was in Hyderabad. She wasnt my friend in anyway, but we shared a good rapport. I never have met any woman who was as brave as her. After knowing her I have admired her for the strength and courage with which she faced the problems of her life and how she managed to go ahead with it. She made me more positive and confident in life in a few ways. I will never forget her for who she was and what change she made in me. This was just an example, I can quote a lot of people like that who have had a great impact on me.

On an end note:

You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you. ~Frederick Buechner

Ayindhil Valayadhadhu...

In Tamil, we generally have a saying "Ayindhil Valayaadhadhu Ayimbhadil Valayumaa?". Recently while watching a TV program, I came across this program where the hosts were discussing about this topic and the actual meaning of this saying really surprised me. So thought of sharing it with you all.

Generally we use this proverb / saying to make a point where if a habit is not changed in the early stages then how it would be difficult to change later .

But let us see what the saying actually means.

Ayindhu is not related to a number. Similarly Ayimbadhu also doesnt relate to a number. Ayindhu here represents Ayindhu pulangal (5 senses: touch, hear, see, taste, and smell). Ayimpadhu is actually Ayimpattru which means Love towards God. Ayindhil valayaadhadhu Ayim pattril valayuma is what it was. The actual meaning of the saying is "If you are not able to control your 5 senses, how can you feel God or involve in Godliness".

Very strange on how a saying was meant for something else and in course of time how it has evolved and changed to mean something very different.