It doesn't often happen that you feel sad for someone's sad state of affairs. Especially when they are not your friend, at least not that close enough. To hear such a story from a person, who has been always lively and whom I have known only recently well enough ( talking to a person doesn't mean that you know them ) to understand how genuine and straight forward this person is, was a bit of a shocker. I hate to be a listener at those times. I was , for a few minutes, wondering if I was hearing it right and wondering if it was a bad dream or a bad joke that this person is so accustomed to plays us with. But when I saw those tears, I wanted to run away from that place. Not because I cannot stand tears.. I feel, crying is a very nice way of letting out things when you cannot express them by words. But the look of sadness in the face.. I just did not want to hear the story. Mainly because I wont be able to console. I have been through that phase of loss. But no words can give any consolation to the broken heart when the feeling of loss is so fresh on the mind. All I could do was to listen. I knew that at the end, it mattered a lot to that person to let it to someone who knew how it would feel. But it made me feel so sad that I wish that things work out well enough for all the people involved in it in a better way for a better future. I , at least, thought that this person had a perfect life. But human minds and the feelings they evoke are so mysterious that ... well I am surprised with today's events. That is all I can say.
I feel relationships are simple to handle but we make it so complex with so many layers of formalities, rules of trust, rules of compromise.. what not ...added to it, that it looks like a maze. And how even some trivial issues of the past, which might bear no importance in the current state, becomes a big issue and a deciding factor in a relationship , even if it was successful for more than a decade. Man, I thought that my life was messed up. At least I did not have much at stake. Just my life, which I can handle very well by myself. But to see the same mistake done by someone else when they had so much at stake at this point of their life. Its sad...really sad...Guess some people never grow up or they grow up very late, when they have lost everything...
I used to believe that time is a big factor in a relationship and that you will understand a person only with time. But I realized that it was a big myth with my case. Because after a decade, the other person did not understand me even 10% of what I had understood of that person. I was so much surprised when I realized how little this person knew about me. It got reiterated with today's incident. You really do not need eons to understand a person. You just need genuine concern and interest and a pinch of trust.
Each story is so different (might have a few common factors here and there) that we will never run short of family drama's I guess. ennavo poangappa.. manasu rombha baaramaa irundhadhu innaiku.. I like stories..but not sad ones... (Sad ones are ok only in movies.. not in real life..especially with people I know..It does hurt.. )
I feel relationships are simple to handle but we make it so complex with so many layers of formalities, rules of trust, rules of compromise.. what not ...added to it, that it looks like a maze. And how even some trivial issues of the past, which might bear no importance in the current state, becomes a big issue and a deciding factor in a relationship , even if it was successful for more than a decade. Man, I thought that my life was messed up. At least I did not have much at stake. Just my life, which I can handle very well by myself. But to see the same mistake done by someone else when they had so much at stake at this point of their life. Its sad...really sad...Guess some people never grow up or they grow up very late, when they have lost everything...
I used to believe that time is a big factor in a relationship and that you will understand a person only with time. But I realized that it was a big myth with my case. Because after a decade, the other person did not understand me even 10% of what I had understood of that person. I was so much surprised when I realized how little this person knew about me. It got reiterated with today's incident. You really do not need eons to understand a person. You just need genuine concern and interest and a pinch of trust.
Each story is so different (might have a few common factors here and there) that we will never run short of family drama's I guess. ennavo poangappa.. manasu rombha baaramaa irundhadhu innaiku.. I like stories..but not sad ones... (Sad ones are ok only in movies.. not in real life..especially with people I know..It does hurt.. )
